Here’s why you’re not motivated and how to fix it.
Before I tell you, I have a quick announcement …
Emma and I got so many requests to open up more spots for the Shred with Em & M that we couldn’t say no. Even though I gave ample notice that this was going to sell out quickly. But I’m also a people pleaser so we decided to open 100 spots right now!
Like literally at this exact moment there are 100 spots available and I will tell you again … these WILL sell out very quickly.
Anyway, I woke up this morning with zero motivation to train.
If I’m being honest, I don’t particularly want to eat well today either.
It’s been a stressful time and I’d much rather just say fuck it all … sit on my ass and eat whatever the hell I want.
On a scale of 1 – 10, motivation is a solid 2 right now.
Ever feel this way?
Maybe you feel this way frequently.
Have you noticed the days where motivation is a 9 or a 10?
Just the other day, Mel got off a check-in call and her client was like … “I wish we had these calls more frequently, I’m always so motivated after we speak!”
Mel’s response was … well … shit.
Because that’s not a good thing.
It’s also not the role of coaching.
Investing in a coach is not about investing in motivation.
It’s about investing in accountability, guidance, and support.
You will likely make emotional decisions on your own … a coach will help you make logical decisions.
You will likely be inconsistent on your own … a coach will help you stay consistent.
You will likely bail on yourself … a coach will hold you accountable.
You will likely be confused or overwhelmed about what to do … a coach will outline a clear game plan for you to follow.
A coach should NOT be a cheerleader or used for temporary motivation.
I say temporary because all motivation is temporary.
Emotions are transient and unpredictable.
Even if we KNOW that every check-in call creates a dose of motivation … so what?
Are we really going to rely on that forever?
What happens when you graduate from coaching? What happens when the check-in calls stop producing that motivational spark?
It’s a slippery slope.
The answer is very simple …
You’re not motivated because you think you need to be motivated.
Imagine if you made a deal with yourself …
I’m only going to show up to work on days that I’m happy.
How frequently would you show up to your job?
It would likely be hit or miss.
Because you can’t rely on an emotion to do something that you know is important to you.
You understand the why behind going to work every day.
Do you understand the why behind eating well and moving your body?
Hopefully you do.
Which means you stay committed and do it regardless of your emotional state.
On days like today when my motivation is a 2 …
I like to have a little dialogue with myself.
Ok Mike, it’s gut check time. Are you all talk or are you going to show up for yourself today?
I have a strong core value on being congruent … my words and actions aligning.
If I don’t show up for myself then I’m violating a personal principle and core value.
What do you value?
Hopefully you understand what all of this is for in the first place.
And you can return to the meaning and the value of it all on days when motivation is a 1 or a 2.
The best part is this … you stop waiting.
You don’t need motivation to be any number.
You stop caring about motivation altogether.
When you have a day where it’s sitting at a 9 or a 10 … you’re like … oh cool, I can get a lot done today.
It just feels like a bonus.
The irony of it all is that when you stop waiting for motivation and you start doing shit anyway … you often find yourself more motivated as a result.
Funny how that works.
Anyway, there’s your solution.
And hopefully that also gives you a little insight into what coaching should be about … and what it’s not.
There’s a reason why our clients are successful.
We keep their heads on straight and focused on the task at hand.
Simple steps that produce lasting results.
That’s the easy part.
The hard part is you actually making the commitment and taking the leap.
Once you do … you’ll never look back.