Is Fat Loss Really Your Goal? It Doesn’t Have to Be.

by | Jun 8, 2022

This may sound weird but …

You don’t actually have to want to lose weight.

I hope that’s obvious but I also feel like there’s so much pressure (especially for women) to be smaller and to take up less space.

So I felt like this needed to be said …

Fat loss is not a requirement.

Fat loss doesn’t have to be one of your goals.

Maybe it’s poor timing for a message like this because we just opened registration for the Shred with Em & M …

Which happens to be a 4 week challenge that will get you leaner.

(If you’re interested, spots are filling up and I expect it to be sold out this week.

So register here if you’d like).

But poor timing or not …

It’s true.

There are plenty of valid reasons to want to lose fat.

– You think carrying around less weight will help you feel better.
– You think losing fat will help you look better.
– You think getting leaner will give you more confidence.
– You have performance goals that would be easier if you lost some weight.
– You are prioritizing your health and dropping some body fat would contribute to that.

You get the point.

But simply doing it because you think you “have to” or are “supposed to” or feel pressured to …

Well … that’s a whole different story.

That can leave you feeling empty and defeated.

Especially if you’re trying to hate yourself lean.

Trust me, I’ve got a lot of experience with that one.

How my weight and fat loss journey started

The whole reason I started on my weight loss journey was because I was angry with myself.

I couldn’t believe what I allowed to happen.

So I berated myself. I put myself down constantly.

And then I tried to hate myself lean.

Which meant that nutrition and exercise were punishment.

Not empowerment.

Massive difference.

I didn’t feel like I had a choice.

Which, of course, wasn’t true.

But, it felt like I had no other option.

And, once I shifted my perspective from “have to” to “choose to …”

Everything changed.

It was no longer about suffering for an outcome.

It was about integrating.

It was about feeling better. Moving better. Performing better.

So let this be your reminder …

You don’t have to do anything.

Your goals are your goals.

Don’t allow anyone to make you feel inferior because you don’t share their goals.

Improving body composition and being able to maintain it requires real commitment and true change.

It’s not something you just do and then move on.

It’s a forever game.

So, you have to truly understand what it means to you and why you’re choosing it in the first place.

And, you also have to understand that when you embark on that journey …

It’s your choice. No one is forcing you to do anything.

Own it. Accept it. Embrace it.

Or choose differently.

There’s no right or wrong … it simply depends on you.

If you really want to make it happen …

Then join the Shred with Em & M and you’ll be well on your way.

(Or, inquire about 1 on 1 coaching).

And if you don’t …

That’s perfectly ok too.

Don’t ever lose sight of that choice.

Interested in 1:1 Coaching?

And let me know that you’re interested in the 1:1 signature coaching program.

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