Why aren’t you where you want to be right now?
Serious question.
Think about it for a minute …
And no, I’m not talking about the surface level bullshit …
Ohhh, I just need to be more consistent …
More disciplined …
Have more willpower.
Yeah, yeah, I get all that and even if it’s true to an extent, it’s NOT the reason why you aren’t currently where you want to be at this very moment.
That answer requires some more digging.
The answer lies in your past …
Think back to ALL of the little micro decisions and past experiences and influences that landed you in this spot.
It probably started when you were really young.
You were influenced in a number of ways and started to develop certain behaviors, beliefs, and patterns.
It’s possible you learned to use food to cope.
It’s possible you witnessed disordered behaviors around food from one or both of your parents.
It’s possible you were made to believe that in order to be accepted, you had to be a certain size and that in order to be a certain size you had to eat less … and less … and less.
It didn’t stop there though …
You carried a lot of those beliefs, behaviors, and patterns with you throughout your life.
It’s possible you tried a number of fad diets as a result.
It’s possible you developed your own disordered relationship with food.
It’s possible you told yourself that you’re not worthy of success and every time you started to make progress you subconsciously sabotaged your efforts.
Over the years, you have made thousands of decisions to get to this point.
Some were more impactful than others.
So now that you’ve had a chance to dig a little deeper …
Answer the question.
Why are you not where you want to be right now?
When you reflect back on it all …
How does that feel?
Painful?
Embarrassing?
Frustrating?
Don’t you wish you could go back with the knowledge you have now and shake some sense into that person?
Well guess what …
You need that pain.
You need that embarrassment.
You need that frustration.
Don’t regret any of it …
Not even for a second.
I don’t care how damaging it was …
Regret will not serve you.
It’s a defeatist mindset.
It brings zero value to you or anyone around you.
You know what all of that pain brought you??
Perspective.
Lessons.
Opportunities to grow.
But, none of that can happen if you’re stuck in regret.
Your wounds and scars can be your greatest teachers if you allow them to.
But, you have to forgive yourself for the decisions you made when you were just doing your best with the information you had at that time.
Personally, my disordered relationship with food and my body was harmful.
It drove a wedge in my marriage that ultimately ended in divorce.
It severed relationships with people very close to me.
I used to hold onto that pain with regret and shame.
Now I look back with gratitude.
That pain was my greatest influence and one of my greatest teachers.
I no longer believe in regret because I refuse to believe that my life could be any better than it is right now.
I’m far from where I want to be.
I have a lot more I’d like to accomplish.
Sometimes I feel like I’m playing from behind.
But, I will never look back with regret because all of those scars and wounds have allowed me to grow into the person I am today.
And, there will be plenty of pain in the future.
Put your greatest teachers to good use.
I’ll continue to do my best to navigate it and will always look back with the perspective of …
What is this teaching me?
How can I use this to grow and evolve?
Everything you have done to get to this point can either be your springboard to success …
Or the shackles that keep you trapped.
The only difference is the perspective you choose to take.
Forgive yourself.
You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be and everything you’ve experienced thus far has provided you with exactly what you need to be successful.
Take it and run with it.
Let go of that regret.
I know it’s challenging.
It’s supposed to be.
That’s why it helps to have people in your corner.
People who have been there too.
Who understand.
Who have successfully led others to the same outcome that you’re trying to achieve.
If you need people … we got you.
Just shoot me a private message on FB.
We’d love to help you transform your mind to achieve the body you desire.
You deserve it.
You are worth it.
Your future self will thank you for it.
