SUCCESS … How Do We Define Success?

by | Feb 17, 2020

Watching the Chiefs win the Super Bowl last night got me thinking about how do we define success.

In the NFL, it’s pretty straightforward. Most teams set their goals before the season with the ultimate goal of winning the Super Bowl. There’s not much gray area.. it’s either success or failure.

When it comes to dieting and weight loss success, things are murkier, to say the least.

One of the questions I ask on the phone with new clients is about their dieting history.

I often get answers like this:

“I tried Weight Watchers and had a lot of success with it. Lost a bunch of weight but gained it all back and now I’m heavier than before I started.”

“I’ve been doing intermittent fasting and have had some success with it. I’m down a few pounds and even though it leaves me ravenous at the end of the day, I’ve been able to keep up with it pretty good.”

“I had success doing keto but once I stopped eating keto I gained a bunch of weight.”

So how are we defining success?

By my definition, any diet that produces a short term result but fails to stand the test of time is a failure.

In other words, if you did weight watchers, keto, paleo, whole 30, or anything else and lost weight in the short term but gained it all back, then by definition… that was not a success.

Statistics illustrate the same picture. Diets are extremely effective at short term weight loss but extremely ineffective at long term sustainability.

However, as the dieter, we often look at the diet as the success and ourselves as the failure.

We think: weight watchers worked, it was ME that stopped working. Keto worked, it was ME that stopped working.

That mindset puts us in fad diet hunting mode.

We fail to see the long term effectiveness and stay myopic in our views about diets.

For the person doing intermittent fasting and seeing results but also having to white knuckle their way through hunger pangs every single night… how effective will that be long term?

This is a fundamental flaw in the diet industry. Most protocols don’t set you up for long term success.

They are all basically a different version of the same shit… here are our rules… follow them or fail. If you can’t follow them, it’s your fault, not ours

It’s like telling your kid the answer to a math problem without actually showing them how to solve the problem.

You wouldn’t do that because you know it wouldn’t contribute to their long term success in math.

Yet, we take that exact approach when it comes to choosing a diet.

We seek the answer without ever learning how to solve the problem.

This is just one of many fundamental flaws with the diet industry but it’s also our responsibility to understand we deserve better.

And to stop giving legs to the bullshit, “follow our rules” approach to dieting.

Change how you define success and seek understanding and long term sustainability instead.

You can still learn a lot from those past experiences, like why keto was unsustainable for you and why you eventually binged after doing intermittent fasting for a few weeks.

We can take that information to build an individual approach that will eventually teach you how to problem-solve for yourself.

Talk about liberating AF.

The Art Of Neurotyping CTA

Interested in 1:1 Coaching?

And let me know that you’re interested in the 1:1 signature coaching program.

The Dirty Little Secret About Fat Loss

The Dirty Little Secret About Fat Loss

The dirty little secret about fat loss that no one tells you ... First of all, fat loss is a personal goal that you don't have to want. And if you do want it, you don't have to feel bad about wanting it. Don't let anyone tell you what your goals "should" be. You want...

read more
The Top 5 Macro Tracking Mistakes

The Top 5 Macro Tracking Mistakes

I'm going to share the top 5 macro tracking mistakes that make losing fat more difficult. First, though, I want to make sure we're all on the same page. Tracking macros is one single tool in the toolbox. It's not the end all be all of nutrition. For those that are new...

read more
How to Be Motivated and Get the Results You Want

How to Be Motivated and Get the Results You Want

Here's why you're not motivated and how to fix it. Before I tell you, I have a quick announcement ... Emma and I got so many requests to open up more spots for the Shred with Em & M that we couldn't say no. Even though I gave ample notice that this was going to...

read more