The Trick to Stopping Self Sabotage

by | Jan 14, 2022

I’ve talked at length about self sabotage in the past but it’s still one of the most common questions I receive.

How do I stop doing this to myself??

What does self sabotage typically look like?

Usually, it’s some form of the following …

– I do really well for a period of time and then I just completely blow it for no reason.
– I stay really consistent all week and then I get derailed every weekend.
– I’m fine all day and then I just can’t control myself at night.

Late night snacking, binge episodes, saying “fuck it” altogether …

Those moments are not fun.

Not only do they make you feel like you’re constantly starting over …

But, they often feel like some kind of character flaw.

You maybe even start to define yourself as a failure or question if you’ll ever be successful.

I’m only guessing that because it’s exactly how I used to handle those moments.

I would wallow in self pity before picking myself apart and feeling intense guilt and shame.

Not so fond memories.

How do you stop self sabotage?

Often times we start looking for solutions in the wrong places.

Typical assumptions:
– I need to hide snacks from myself so I don’t succumb to the late night urge.
– I need to exercise more willpower and discipline when I feel a binge episode about to hit.
– I need to find a way to eat the same on the weekends as I do during the week.

Seems reasonable.

But, those are not solutions.

They are band-aids.

And, the problem still exists so those band-aid fixes aren’t going to work very well.

Like trying to fix a leak with a piece of scotch tape or just putting a bucket under the leak.

It’s better to ask …

Where is this leak coming from?

You don’t blame the water on the floor … you look to repair what’s CAUSING the water on the floor.

Look for what’s causing you to sabotage your results.

In the case of self sabotage, it’s everything you’re doing that leads up to those moments.

You’re trying to be too perfect, which leads to blowing it all up.

You’re trying to rush the process, which leads to frustration and sabotage.

You’re restricting yourself all day, which leads to snacking at night.

You’re giving yourself zero flexibility all week, which leads to indulging every weekend.

You’re depriving yourself too much, which leads to binge episodes.

You’re trying to do too much, which leads to burn out.

Let’s fix the leak rather than continuing to simply place a bucket under the water and then blaming yourself for not having working pipes.

Have I beaten this analogy to death yet?

Cool.

Hopefully it lands.

Because I’ve witnessed what happens when you actually fix the leak.

Just ask any of our clients.

Here’s what success can look like …

Most of them came to us saying that they couldn’t stop their self sabotaging ways and were skeptical that they could be successful based on their past history.

Then, within the first couple of weeks of joining our coaching program they saw a huge difference in their perspective.

You mean … you don’t crave things and binge on them when you’re not trying to be perfect, following arbitrary food rules, and actually providing your body what it needs?

Amazing how that works.

We’ve had clients who never thought they’d be able to keep certain foods in their house again … and now eat those same foods in moderation almost daily while reaching their goals.

The simple part is doing it.

The hard part is taking the first step and actually reaching out for help.

But, once you do, we follow 3 core phases to get help you get the body you desire while eliminating self sabotage and teaching you how to sustain your results forever.

3 steps to stopping self sabotage and achieving sustainable results

We start with our Neurotyping principles. We need to know what plan you’ll enjoy the most and stay the most consistent with. It also helps to know which foods will make you feel your best based on your personality type.

Then, we go into our Metabolic Priming phase. This is where the self sabotage disappears because you’ll be reducing stress and fueling your body appropriately so you won’t feel the urge to binge or over indulge.

This is also the phase where you’ll notice significant body composition changes because once your body feels safe to let go of unwanted body fat, it’s pretty simple to make it happen from there.

Lastly, we implement our Lifestyle Integration phase. This is where we ensure that everything we’re doing is sustainable and suited to your lifestyle. We want you to enjoy the foods you love, go on date nights, be social, have family dinners without stress (Well, without stress from food. No promises on the stress from your family lol).

That last phase is why our clients feel so confident after completing our 6 month, 1:1 coaching program.

Because they have all the tools to keep living life with the results they achieved. And, they can decide to pursue additional goals that they never imagined possible.

Currently, we have a few spots open so if you’re interested in seeing if you’re a good fit for the program …

Shoot me a PM on FB.

We’ll have a quick chat and if we agree that it’s a good fit on both sides, we can officially welcome you into the program.

Interested in 1:1 Coaching?

And let me know that you’re interested in the 1:1 signature coaching program.

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