How Long Will It Take to Reach Your Goals?

by | Oct 26, 2022

Want to know EXACTLY how long it will take you to lose body fat?

If you want to know the answer …

You’re in the wrong place.

No one can precisely tell you how long it will take to reach your goals.

Sure, we can venture a best guess but that’s not super helpful.

Even if we know every single minute detail about you and we can control everything around you and you remain 100% compliant …

Even then … we won’t know exactly how long it’ll take for you to reach your goals.

Because the reality is … your body is going to respond when it responds.

You can’t force it. You can’t predict it.

If someone tells you they can … they’re trying to sell you something.

The bigger issue is this …

And I want you to really pay attention to what I’m about to say right now …

Even though you may not like me for saying it …

And if you want to unsubscribe or block me or whatever, I’ll understand …

But …

It’s your inability to operate without a timeline that is holding you back.

Here’s where I call your bullshit

If I said to you … I can snap my fingers and grant you the body of your dreams with a sustainable lifestyle to maintain those results and a healthy relationship with food and total confidence in yourself and how you look and feel …

However, it’ll happen 2 years from now.

You’d probably nod your head and say yes.

I’ll take that deal.

Your words would say yes … but your actions would tell a different story.

Because you’d still operate as if everything had to be done tomorrow.

You’d still get frustrated when the scale isn’t down after 1 week.

You’d still beat yourself up over one poor decision.

You’d still set arbitrary timelines like needing to lose X pounds by X date (for a vacation or wedding or whatever).

How do I know?

Because I literally ask that question all the time.

Here’s a typical exchange that I have on a daily basis:

Them: I’m struggling to lose weight. I think I’ve been under eating for too long and my body just isn’t responding to anything.

Me: When was the last time you went through a metabolic priming phase and actually found your true maintenance?

Them: Um, never.

Me: Do you think maybe that would help?

Them: Yes but how long would that take?

Me: What’s your ultimate goal?

Them: I just want my body to reflect all the hard work I’m putting in. I want to get rid of this fluff I’m carrying around. I just want to feel confident in my clothes and to stop obsessing all the time about what I’m eating or how I look. I don’t want my kids to have the same issues with food that I do so I want to set a better example for them.

Me: That’s great. So what if that ultimate goal took you two full years to accomplish. Would it be worth it?

Them: Absolutely. I’ve been struggling with this my whole adult life.

Me: I get it. I know how frustrating that is. So it seems to me like you know what direction to go, you’ve just been afraid to do what’s necessary.

Them: Yes, I know. I need to get my calories up. But how long do I need to spend in maintenance before I can lose fat?

Me: … (Throws phone out the window).

Ok, I don’t actually throw my phone.

But do you see the cognitive dissonance that exists?

If you want to reach your goals, your thoughts and actions must be in line with each other.

The gap between thoughts and actions.

What’s the rush??

If you’ve been trying to diet for decades … why can’t you just take the time necessary to prime your metabolism to actually respond the way you want it to?

If it takes 6 months, it takes 6 months.

If it takes a year, it takes a year.

If those timelines aren’t cool with you, that’s fine. Then stop lying to yourself.

Stop saying you want sustainable results. Stop saying you care about health. Stop saying you want to set a better example for your kids.

Say … I want results right now and I don’t give a fuck how I get there and I don’t care what poor behaviors I model for my children.

At least that would be honest.

You see, when our words and actions don’t align, we have two options …

1. Change our actions to match our words or
2. Change our words to match our actions.

So you can either buckle up and truly treat this as a lifelong pursuit …

Or you can change your words to match your current actions.

Continuing to say one thing and do another is what I call acting like an asshole.

Metabolic priming will take however long it takes.

Usually with our 1 on 1 clients, we’re able to get them leaner, stronger, and feeling a million times better through that process anyway.

Obviously, if you’re going to do it on your own, you run the risk of not knowing what to do in order to reach your goals. But the concept remains the same …

It will take however long it takes.

Losing fat will also take however long it takes.

You may need 4 weeks to lose 10 lbs. You may need 10 weeks to lose 10 lbs. You may need 12 weeks to lose 10 lbs.

Does it matter though? If you’re willing to allow this process to be a forever process then who the fuck cares how long it takes?

Your need for deadlines and instant results is costing you more time, energy, and money in the long run.

How long will it take to reach your goals? It’ll take however long it takes!

Now, we don’t just fly aimlessly.

With our 1:1 clients, we set expectations and explain the phase we’re in and why we’re doing it.

It helps to know the purpose and how we monitor the effectiveness of something like metabolic priming or a targeted fat loss phase.

However, we’re not going to say … in this fat loss phase you’re going to lose EXACTLY 12.5 lbs in 12 weeks.

That would be ridiculous.

We’re going to see how their body is responding and then we can adjust from there.

Sometimes that means shortening the fat loss phase because we are seeing progress faster than expected. Sometimes that means going a bit longer.

It depends on the individual response.

The underpinning that makes this all work so well is knowing that what we’re doing is setting the foundation for LIFELONG results.

Not 30 day results. Not 90 day results. Not even 1 year results.

We want 100% confidence that the results we create for our clients are sustainable for LIFE. Period. The end.

That’s the filter.

That’s what makes our process so freakin effective.

Of course, you can keep trying to do things the way you’ve always done them …

And hope for a different outcome.

Or you can realize that if you just embrace the long game, you’ll never worry about deadlines or arbitrary numbers again.

You can operate with freedom and comfort while you seek to reach your goals.

Always a choice.

Interested in 1:1 Coaching?

And let me know that you’re interested in the 1:1 signature coaching program.

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