The Perfect Path to Your Goals is Not Trying to Be Perfect

by | Sep 29, 2021

Trying to be perfect is keeping you stuck.


That’s a toxic statement.

At least that’s what Tommy Tough Nuts told me yesterday on Instagram.

He said that telling people to ditch their perfectionist mindset is toxic.

Don’t worry, he didn’t stop there.

He also said that people should strive for perfection and fuel their bodies according to their goals.

Apparently, one can only fuel according to one’s goals if one strives for perfection.

I highlight this point because it illustrates everything that’s wrong in the fitness space.

A clear lack of understanding of human psychology, disregard for nuance, and a basic assumption that everyone is lazy and just needs to “do the work.”

When I say that mindset is more important than the physical stuff …

Some people get their panties in a bunch.

And make statements like … “Oh, so people can just eat cookies and ice cream all day and reach their goals as long as their mindset is solid?”

No, jackass, because someone whose mindset is solid won’t want to eat cookies and ice cream all day.

Ya know, because when your mindset is solid you don’t particularly want to feel like shit and spend hours on the toilet.

Trying to be perfect can set a lot of people up for failure.

Here’s a shocking news flash…

It depends on the person.

For some, trying to be perfect means trying to eliminate a whole bunch of things in your life that you enjoy.

Like never eating cookies or ice cream ever again.

Or, thinking that you need to be 1,000% dialed in on your macros every single day of your life.

Which is an impossible standard to uphold.

So, when you inevitably fall off …

It can be a really long fall.

In other words, you go from all …

To nothing.

Simply because you were trying to be perfect.

This is why understanding your personality is so important.

Fitness and nutrition is incredibly nuanced.

Which confuses people like Tommy Tough Nuts because he just wants to believe it’s a matter of “doing the work, bro.”

Just don’t eat pizza.

Be more disciplined.

No days off!

I’m sure he has a lot of fun in life.

But, let’s just imagine for a second that your goals involve more than just physical goals.

Let’s imagine that you actually want to be fit AND have a social life.

Like maybe you want to have a drink on occasion.

And eat a fuckin pizza when you want some pizza.

Imagine that.

So yeah …

It depends.

For some, the answer might be … pull your head out of your ass and do the work.

For some, the answer might be … stop trying to be so damn perfect and cut yourself some slack.

What I do know is this …

When you find something you can do for the rest of your life …

Everything changes.

The key to sustainable results …

So no … I don’t want to avoid processed carbs forever (that was also part of the brilliant advice from the keyboard warrior I’m picking on).

In fact … I eat cereal every single day and it works well for me because it’s delicious in my protein shake.

And no … I will not strive for perfection because I know that’s a slippery slope for my personality type and I actually have some degree of self awareness and understand a thing or two about psychology.

And yes … I will continue to preach mindset first because I want to help others achieve food freedom AND their physical goals and I’m not going to set people up for failure with unrealistic expectations of being perfect.

Not to flex or anything, but our track record kind of speaks for itself.

We’ve helped thousands of people achieve their physical goals in the most sustainable way possible while being able to enjoy their lives and do things they never imagined possible.

In fact, many of our clients are shocked when they go away on vacations or social events or date nights and can actually let loose and enjoy it.

Zero stress. Zero guilt.

And, they’re amazed when they still make progress through all of that.

It’s not magic … it’s basic human psychology.

If it’s not sustainable … you won’t sustain it lol.

So yeah … phase 1 of our 1:1 coaching program will continue to be centered around Neurotyping and understanding your personality.

It helps to assess your behavioral tendencies, what motivates you, and what will be the easiest way to stay consistent.

If you haven’t done anything like that yet … you’re leaving results on the table and wasting time.

To see what that might look like for you … shoot me a private message on FB.

We’ll have a quick chat to make sure it’s a good fit. If it is, we can get started right away.

Interested in 1:1 Coaching?

And let me know that you’re interested in the 1:1 signature coaching program.

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