The Top 3 Progress Killers

by | Nov 22, 2021

What are the top 3 progress killers?

Let’s just get this out of the way right now …

It’s not your macros, it’s not your training, it’s not your meal timing, supplements, or whether you’re fasting for 10 hours or 20.

I’m willing to bet you already know some of your nutritional shortcomings …

Whether you’re eating too much.

Eating too little (hint: 1200 calories isn’t enough).

Eating poor quality foods (I doubt you need anyone to explain the difference between ultra processed foods and whole foods).

In fact, you’ve probably been given the advice to “just eat less” at least 1,000 times.

Maybe more.

If you’re a chronic dieter, you’ve probably experienced the impact of always trying to eat less.

Low energy, intense cravings, binge episodes, poor sleep, shitty mood, no sex drive, hormonal dysfunction, depressed immune system, etc.

And, if you’re eating an overall poor quality diet, you’re probably aware of it.

No one pulls into a drive thru thinking it’s the “healthy” choice.

And yet, none of those things are the top progress killers.

If it was that easy, you’d have already made the change and be where you want to be right now.

If it was as easy as “just eat less”, then why didn’t it work the millions of times that it’s been attempted in the history of dieting?

Because eating too much isn’t the problem.

Eating too little isn’t the problem.

Eating like shit isn’t the problem.

Those are simply manifestations of the real problem.

The wounds, so to speak.

For example, if you drove over a nail and got a flat tire.

Then couldn’t reach your destination because of the flat tire.

And everyone tells you to just fill the tire with air.

But you keep getting a flat tire because there’s a nail in your tire.

The nail caused the flat tire.

But, you haven’t treated the root cause.

Your nutrition is the flat tire.

It’s preventing you from reaching your destination.

You keep thinking that filling your tire with air is the solution (adjusting your macros, just eating less, fasting, eliminating carbs, only eating clean) …

But, there’s still a nail in your tire.

So let’s remove the nail, shall we?

The top 3 progress killers (aka nails in your tire) are …

1. Impatience

Without fail, this is number 1.

Why do most people jump into ridiculous fad diets with zero chance of sustainable results?

Because you can see quick progress.

Nothing is more appealing than the grandiose promises of losing 10 lbs. in 10 days (or whatever the fuck they promise).

You want results and you want them now.

Eventually, you try enough unsustainable methods and come to your senses.

“Alright Debra, stop torturing yourself … let’s finally do something sustainable.”

So, Debra starts working on some habits and is ready to embrace the long game.

But, 2 weeks in, the scale hasn’t moved and Debra loses her shit.

So close to removing the nail … yet so far.

The ability to delay gratification will continue to be the number 1 predictor for success.

2. All or nothing thinking

Hello, nail number 2.

An old friend of mine.

Here’s how this plays out …

You remove the nail from your tire.

You fill your tire with air.

You’re finally on the road and moving towards your destination.

You’re being extra careful with every move.

Hands on 10 and 2 on the steering wheel.

Checking your mirrors excessively.

Laser focus.

And then … a wrong turn!


Not a detour!

Screw this … I’m jamming that nail back in my tire.

While we’re at it … fuck these other 3 tires too.

They can all go to hell.

Sound familiar?

Nail number 2 is thinking that you’re either on or off and that there’s no in between.

You either get an A or an F.

Embrace the middle.

When the detour hits, gradually make your way back on the road.

Or, enjoy the scenery of the detour for a while.

Then, make your way back on the road.

3. Riding solo

Stop trying to be the mechanic, the GPS, and the driver all in one.

You’re making things way more difficult on yourself than they need to be.

If you want to learn to play the piano, you hire a piano teacher.

If you are struggling with mental health, you hire a therapist.

Your fitness and nutrition are no different.

The issue with doing it on your own is you likely don’t even know your starting point or a realistic roadmap to your destination.

So it’s a wild guessing game.

Or, you shill out a few bucks for a shitty program.

Like a piano teacher that only teaches you how to play one song over and over again.

You didn’t even learn any chords or notes … just how to replicate one song.

Quality coaching, on the other hand, will always win.

Think about these two scenarios …

Scenario 1: You hop in your car and start driving.

You know where you want to go but aren’t sure how to get there.

You think … I’m smart enough, I’ll figure it out.

It’s taking a while and you’re getting frustrated but you think … I can do this.

Wait … need to stop for gas. That’s gonna cost money.

Crap, need an oil change. More money spent.

Road is closed ahead and now it feels like you’re never going to make it.

A fork in the road … yikes … which turn is correct?

Damn … tank is empty again … time to fill it back up. That bank account is getting low.

Not to mention you’ve been driving for what feels like an eternity and that destination is still nowhere in sight.

Massive frustration settles in.

Scenario 2: You invest in a guide.

Before you even hit the road, your guide is able to pinpoint your exact starting location.

Then, you discuss the exact destination you’d like to reach.

You get a full roadmap on the most efficient path from your starting point to your destination.

While you’re on the road, you’ve got voice command access to your guide in case you hit those forks in the road or any road closures.

Your guide is able to help you navigate instantly and keep on your path to your destination.

You arrive at your destination without even needing to stop for gas or change the oil or spend any other money on road side assistance.

Now, most people choose scenario 1 and spend most of their adult lives driving aimlessly.

The individuals who choose scenario 2 are the ones who experience true freedom.

What choice will you make?

Scenario 2 saves you time, money, energy, stress and delivers you peace of mind and the feeling of accomplishment for reaching your goals.

Scenario 1 keeps you comfortable because you get to stay the same.

If you want scenario 2 for yourself … the next step is simple.

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