We all have them.
Sometimes one. Sometimes many.
You know that moment when the universe is like … oh, ok … so you’re gonna keep ignoring me …
Hold my beer.
And then hits you with an absolute vicious gut punch that is too painful to ignore.
Or has it already happened?
The tipping point is different for everyone.
I’ve talked to thousands of individuals over the years and have heard so many of these stories.
It was the moment when my daughter asked if she should start dieting also.
It was the moment when my son asked, how come mommy drinks protein shakes at the dinner table and doesn’t eat with us?
It was the moment when my doctor told me I can’t try to have a baby unless I make a change.
It was the moment when I couldn’t even make it up the stairs without feeling exhausted.
It was the moment when I skipped our annual girls’ trip because I was on a diet.
It was the moment when my daughter said she didn’t want birthday cake because mommy doesn’t eat that.
It was the moment when my sister told me I have an eating disorder.
That last one is mine.
And all of the above are real stories.
Unfortunately, I could write a whole book with examples of “the moment.”
For me, I had several moments.
Of course, one dose of pain isn’t enough for me.
Many of us experience these moments and then still choose the same path we’ve always chosen.
Like more dieting is going to be the answer to the issues that chronic dieting has created.
That’s like drowning and thinking the solution is pouring more water on yourself.
How many wake up calls need to happen before you actually wake up?
When will it become abundantly clear that if you want a different outcome you have to take a different path?
When will you stop depriving yourself and making yourself miserable?
You say you want to change but then you do the same thing you’ve always done …
Restrict. Eat less. Exercise more. Eliminate foods. Try harder. Flex your willpower.
Rinse and repeat.
That approach has led to those moments above.
Think about your relationship with food.
How has that impacted the people around you?
Think about your relationship with your body.
How has that impacted how you treat and communicate with yourself?
When are you going to realize that you deserve better?
What will be YOUR tipping point?
At what point do you draw the line in the sand and say … enough is enough.
I spoke to an individual yesterday who has been firmly entrenched in the diet roller coaster and is beyond frustrated.
And she can’t get herself to change.
You can see the fear settle in.
No doubt, this has impacted her in so many ways and she’s flat out tired of it.
Yet … when it’s time to make a decision and commit to a different solution …
Scared of what?
The uncertainty of it all.
Which is totally normal.
However, by not walking into that discomfort she is actively choosing the certain misery of her current situation.
The reality is that the discomfort of change is very short-lived.
We make it out to be a huge deal in our minds but in reality, it’s nothing.
The hardest part is simply taking the first step.
Once you do, the fear dissipates incredibly quickly and then it turns to relief, peace of mind, and fulfillment.
By staying comfortable, you are choosing the certainty of your current situation.
And, if you’re not ok with where things are at currently … then the answer is obvious.
You have to acknowledge the fear and discomfort … and do it anyway.
That’s the only way out.
And it’s liberating AF.
And if you find yourself choosing to stay the same … that’s ok.
But, when you’re feeling the consequences of how it feels to stay the same …
You should say out loud to yourself … “Remember, I consciously chose this.”
Look, I certainly don’t have all the answers.
I’m just one dude who crawled out of a dark hole and learned some shit along the way.
I chose certain misery for 10 years before truly making a change.
So, you’ll never catch judgement from me.
However, I do know what it takes and I do know what it feels like.
I know what’s possible for you and it’s literally just on the other side of discomfort.
My advice … take the leap and never look back.
And no, you don’t have to figure this out on your own.
In fact, it’s way more difficult to go at it alone.
Make things easier on yourself and get some help.
It doesn’t have to be from us.
Although we do have quite the track record.