How Do You Fix the Person in the Mirror?

by | Feb 25, 2022

The person in the mirror is brutal.

Calls out your deepest insecurities.

Brings attention to your problem areas.

My person in the mirror points directly at my love handles and lower back fat.

Where does your person in the mirror point?

The person in the mirror makes you feel small. Inadequate. Unworthy.

Like you should be doing more. Or be further along.

My person in the mirror used to say … “How the fuck are we still struggling to lose weight? What’s wrong with you??”

What does your person in the mirror say?

The person in the mirror gives you short bursts of motivation, followed by long bursts of feeling over it all.

You get tired of being beaten down so you decide to make a stand.

I’ll show you, mother fucker.

And, each day the person in the mirror reminds you that it’s still not good enough.

Eventually, the motivation disappears.

And the person in the mirror is there to remind you that you gave up yet again.

The person in the mirror isn’t all bad.

Just brutally honest.

And that honesty can be a huge slap in the face.

Have you ever made a decision that was fundamentally opposed to what you truly desire?

For example, you’ve been struggling for years or decades with losing fat, looking how you want to look, and/or improving your relationship with food.

And you were one simple word away from achieving all of that and more.

You were one “yes” away from never having to struggle with food or your body. again.

And you balked.

You hesitated.

You declined.

You remember the very first person to tell you that you fucked up?

The person in the mirror.

The person in the mirror says what you’re really thinking deep down.

Exposes the truth when you lie to yourself.

Is the dose of reality that you probably need to hear.

But, that person in the mirror should be a teammate … not an opponent.

So, how do you make that shift?

In my opinion, you have to get on the same page.

Stop feeling bad for wanting to improve.

It’s ok to say that you want to make a physical change.

It’s ok to say that you’re not happy with your body composition in its current state.

Note: That’s a massive difference than saying you don’t love yourself currently.

You can appreciate your body for all it’s done for you AND simultaneously want to improve.

Everyone has an opinion about what your goals should be.

Guess what?

They belong to you and no one else.

If you want abs, get after it.

If you want to look better naked, get after it.

If you want to simply drop a pant size or fit better in your clothes, get after it.

If you don’t want any of those things, that’s perfectly acceptable too.

Get on the same page with the person in the mirror.

No one gets to make you feel bad for pursuing a better version of yourself.

Then, once you’re on the same page, you gotta stop trying to fix everything at once.

I say one thing to the person in the mirror every single morning …

“We’re chipping away.”

That’s it.

I let that MFer know that this shit is going to be slow and steady.

I tried the balls to the wall approach and it never worked.

In fact, it set me back every damn time.

The person in the mirror will be straight with you.

If you jump back into some restrictive, ridiculous, bullshit protocol …

The person in the mirror will be smug and arrogant.

Like … ok … I can’t wait to watch this train wreck unfold.

Pay attention.

Build the foundation.

The most important step through all of this is that no one makes it on their own.

When it’s just you and the person in the mirror … no one else is watching.

It’s easy to blow yourself up.

Self sabotage is real.

I’ve seen people on cruise control who were about to accomplish everything they could ever want …

And then set fire to it all.

Simply because they had no accountability. No guidance. Nowhere to turn when shit got real.

Ask anybody who has what you want, how they got there.

Every single one of them will say … with help.

Tally up the time you’ve already wasted by avoiding this step.

It’s significant.

And no, getting help doesn’t mean joining a cheap ass program for $100/mo that spits out a bunch of numbers at you and tries to reduce you to a calorie calculator.

Sorry. That’s never gonna work.

You can’t price shop your way to true support and guidance.

Once you’ve accepted that your goals are your goals, you’ve committed to playing the long game, you’ve found yourself some real help …

Now you can start to see the fruits of your labor.

There’s nothing worse than working hard and not seeing results.

That’s when the person in the mirror will turn on you.

You need to work with your body and mind.

Personalized nutrition coaching will help you get lasting results … WE guarantee it.

When we do this with our clients, we start with our Neurotyping principles because it helps us know what they’ll enjoy the most, what they’ll be the most consistent with, and what foods/macro ratios will help them feel their best.

It often feels effortless.

It’s much more enjoyable when you actually have energy and an improved mood throughout the process.

We also go through a Metabolic Priming phase so we can proceed with absolute certainty.

Again, no one likes to feel stuck.

And, feeling stuck is usually a result of ignoring your metabolic needs.

So we address that right away.

Once we get your metabolism responding well, we can set realistic and achievable goals.

The best part about this phase is the confidence it instills in our clients.

Because they know what to expect and they know WHY we’re doing what we’re doing.

It really helps with the long term commitment.

As a bonus side point, if they don’t reach their goals, they don’t pay us anything so it’s a no-lose situation.

Zero downside. Only upside.

The only thing keeping you from sustainable results is a simple ‘yes’.

Then, we need to ensure that the results are sustainable forever.

Which is our last phase.

We call it Lifestyle Integration.

Learning how to keep your results while enjoying your life.

That’s usually when most of our clients graduate.

Once they realize they have the tools to do this forever and it actually feels pretty damn easy.

And they actually look forward to the conversation with the person in the mirror each day.

This process was designed to help individuals get off the diet hamster wheel and create the body they desire with total food freedom.

As I mentioned above, we even guarantee it or you don’t have to pay.

We’ve had clients lose 50, 75, 100+ pounds with this process.

We’ve had clients go from lean to leaner.

We never judge.

We simply execute in the most effective and sustainable way possible.

It’s repeatable. Predicable. And certain.

The only thing stopping you from achieving what so many of our clients have already achieved …

Is one word.


If you want those results for yourself, the next step is simple …

Book a call here:

We’ll schedule a time to chat to make sure it’s a good fit on both sides.

If we decide that it is, we can get started right away.

The person in the mirror will confirm your decision.

Interested in 1:1 Coaching?

And let me know that you’re interested in the 1:1 signature coaching program.

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