I’m going to teach you a hack for fat loss that will help you lose 20 lbs. without any form of dieting.
It works every single time and has the lovely side effect of allowing you to maintain those results with ease.
The catch?
It’s counter to everything that your brain will tell you to do. It goes against the grain which can be difficult to wrap your head around.
But make no mistake … it works like a charm.
I find that parenting analogies work best so I’m going to use one to describe it.
Imagine you have a child who is 5 years old. Maybe you do right now or maybe you did or maybe you will (or maybe you can just imagine).
Your 5 year old is like me …
A giant pain in the ass.
Immature. Doesn’t listen. Gets into trouble as 5 year olds tend to do.
You really want them to grow up.
You have a couple of options.
Which option for change do YOU choose?
Option 1 … you focus hard on forcing them to grow up immediately.
You get super strict. Set a bunch of firm rules. Punish them the minute they act up. You create a prison for your 5 year old.
Grow up, dammit!
Every single day you wake up and you want to see them acting more mature than a 5 year old.
You try to force the result daily.
Option 2 … you plant small seeds each day.
You give them space to act like a 5 year old and try to communicate with them about what’s acceptable and what’s not.
You lead by example with your behaviors but you don’t expect an overnight change.
You let them make mistakes and learn through the process.
You teach them a growth mindset and know that over time, they’ll grow up.
When you want to lose 20 lbs, you treat it like option 1.
You try to force it. You set a bunch of strict rules. You want the change to happen immediately.
Every morning you wake up and step on the scale …
Go away, fat!
You punish yourself for acting like a human. Zero margin for error.
Sounds familiar?
If you want a hack for fat loss and to be able to lose 20 lbs. and keep it off forever …
Treat it like option 2.
Focus on the behaviors over time. Stop putting all of your attention on the number. Stop waking up each morning as if it’s a litmus test for how well you did.
Just trust the behaviors over time.
Lead by example.
Focus on eating mostly quality foods. Move your body each day. Prioritize sleep and self care. Give yourself space to make mistakes and learn from them.
The change will happen over time. Be patient with yourself.
The reason why many people struggle with the behavior change shift is because they try to force the result without falling in love with the process.
The behaviors are conditional on the outcome.
If the outcome isn’t changing fast enough then the behaviors default back to what got them into trouble in the first place.
Again … sound familiar?
This shift works every single time, regardless of your goal.
It’s just completely counter to the urges you’ll feel to rush the process or hyper-focus on the outcome.
Want to reach your goals? A mindset shift is essential.
So you have to parent yourself like you would your 5 year old.
If you think that’s not strict enough or extreme enough …
I get it. That mindset is a difficult one to break.
But consider this …
How has that worked for you so far?
Because I can guarantee that you’ve tried strict and extreme programs and they didn’t help you reach your goals and stay there.
So what makes you think trying it that way for the 17th time will work?
If you want extraordinary results you can’t look for solutions in the same place that ordinary people are looking.
We must go where they are not willing to go and look where they are not willing to look.
In the mirror.
